Debatable Discussions…

Debatable Discussions…

Debate VS Discussion Damn you English language for once again making things to hard on simple minded people like myself. Last week while attending a marriage seminar in San Antonio Texas, Danielle and I for a better word got in an argument about whether we consistently have debates or discussions. Which in turn led into a debatable discussion about the two terms. Dictionary.com defines debate as something that is open to discussion or argument. Where discussion is defined as the action or process of talking about something, typically in order to reach a decision or to exchange ideas. After doing some more research using thesauruses and dictionaries I concluded that a discussion normally is centered on a particular topic. Typically two or more people are trying to establish the validity of the topic and reach a conclusion.  On the other hand debate takes place to oppose certain points regarding a topic. The main intent is to prove their own correctness by engaging in arguments to prove the other wrong.  In other words a debate is verbal “fight.” It’s about winning an argument.  Discussions are the “breaking apart” of issues.  It’s about  finding an agreed upon solution or answer. My wife and I don’t agree about everything, so we discuss the matters. Some things we’ll probably never agree on, but we can understand why the other person thinks as they do even without agreeing with their conclusion. This is an important part of a DISCUSSION and trying to understand the other person’s view and reasons. You can’t have a civil discussion without first understanding the other person and their feelings...
There’s No Place Like Home

There’s No Place Like Home

Nomadic Versus Home Base If you had the opportunity to live a nomadic life, traveling from place to place, would you do it? Do you need a home base? What makes a place “home” to you? What is your comfort zone? Nomadic essentially means anything that involves moving around a lot. Nomadic hunter-gatherer tribes followed the animals they hunt and carried the tents they slept in with them. Many Biblical characters, such as Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, Moses, David and others, lived a nomadic lifestyle. In a modern time you don’t have to be a nomad to live a nomadic lifestyle. In fact if you dive in deeper people who are chasing the American dream of a huge house, fast car and a white picket fence, settle down and are enslaved to ideas they don’t understand and can’t break free from.  Honestly if you are constantly striving for that dream what happens when you catch it?  Do you keep upgrading houses, cars and fences? Are you going into debt to achieve this level of the American dream? Most are.  For fun lets pretend that you are financially independent and you buy your house, car and fence in cash.  Are you actually at home that often or are you traveling the world experiencing everything it has to offer? Exactly. Modern day nomads, I consider to be independent thinkers and entrepreneurs. This group of people choose a life of trying to break free from the template lifestyle. They are choosing to live life on their own terms.  I am not saying people who settle down aren’t independent thinkers, lifestyle igniters, or not...
Rest Days

Rest Days

My wife left me…  literally she is gone.  This leaves an empty place in not only my life but my schedule.  Okay seriously she only left me for the weekend, but by the time she left the drive way I already had started missing her (cue the sad romantic music).  I mean honestly she is so freaking amazing and the sexiest woman on the planet who wouldn’t miss her?!  I realized something a few hours ago and that is I have to do something that I haven’t done in well over a year….  Yes I have to take my day of rest without my wife Danielle.  What in the hell am I suppose to do?  Typically when we take rest day together there is no resting… haha yes I am uber mature.  Now I do have to clarify so I do not come across as a sex crazed male, but who am I suppose to talk to, play cards with or just relax with?  She is my soul mate and the best friend any one could ask for. She is headed to a sales training in Missouri and I am sitting here in a big dark empty house with our two dogs (Jackson and Fiore) who speak some form of a language that resembles mandarin (I’m convinced they are ridiculously smart but cannot convey it). What-oh-what are we supposed to do while mom is away?  We played hide and seek and of course they won, we played cards and I won, we sat on the patio and enjoyed the quiet and we both won. But I am out of...
Flip Flop Poverty

Flip Flop Poverty

Hind Sight is 20/20… I just returned home from a First Steps to Success seminar in San Antonio Texas. After sharing my testimonial many times that weekend I realized what had ‘flip flopped’ in my day to day lifestyle.  There was something specific that changed after my first event that caused me to not recognize my life. Prior to plugging into Danijohnson.com I had the knack for finding niches and exploiting them to the marketplace and it was paying off HUGE!!! I had created businesses that were projecting hundreds of thousands of dollars in income, but that didn’t matter because I was spending it faster than I could make it. This revolving door took me down a path of chasing money by throwing more time at situations.  At one point I was working 80-100 hour weeks while attending college. Yes I said 100 hours a week outside of studying and going out partying!  I wouldn’t sleep for days at a time! This resulted in terrible relationships with family and friends.  I had declining health and my mind would never shut off.  The worst part was I had no relationship with GOD! Without me knowing God had been blessing me with opportunities as a test to see how I handled success and how I handled my seed (money).  Seeds are meant to reproduce and generate more seeds.  I was eating my seed before I could even plant it, meaning I was wasting money before I could invest it.  Have you ever heard the line “If you master the little things in life, you will be made ruler over much?”, well...
Play Together, Stay Together.

Play Together, Stay Together.

Recently I glanced at an article that some emotional woman posted to her boyfriends wall on the Book of Faces.  The article was titled: Do Couples Who Play Together Stay Together?, I proceeded with caution because the term “Play” can be misconstrued now a days especially on the internet. Shortly after starting the article I went off on a tangent similar to the squirrel situation in the Movie Up. In the first paragraph I realized that the reason with Americans being in a financial bind is every single angle of the media perceives taking out debt for happiness as OK!  Literally 1/3 of this article was about how “Financial institutions often encourage borrowing money against the equity in a home to finance a needed vacation.”  No wonder we are all in massive trouble.  At the end of the day you have to break down necessity versus luxury. Do we need to eat this week orrrrrr should we go to Disney World and eat pizza with Mickey Mouse?  Well pizza sounds good we better refinance our house so we can afford to go!  STUPID!!!!! Marital satisfaction is analyzed in the second paragraph, which is something that could be defined differently by the husband and wife depending on the year.  It states that between 1 and 5 years and 17 or more years together that marital activities performed together increased the happiness where as people being married 6 to 16 years weren’t influenced either way.  Studies regarding marital satisfaction indicate that levels of marital satisfaction decline after the fourth or fifth year of marriage and stay at a lower level until...

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